Breakthrough Through Your Upper Limits to the Next Level

In this episode of the Holistic Millionaire Podcast, Shelley dives into the concept of breaking through upper limits as she reflects on her personal and professional growth while preparing for an upcoming retreat in Costa Rica. She shares insights into the emotional barriers that arise when stepping into greater success and fulfillment, particularly when challenging ingrained family patterns or societal expectations. Shelley draws from her experiences, offering a fresh perspective on cultivating ease, joy, and balance in all areas of life. She poses reflective questions to help listeners identify and transcend their upper limits, creating a life that flows with abundance and alignment. This episode is an invitation to pause, assess your holistic wheel of life, and envision a path of growth and ease.

Key Points From This Episode:

• Breaking through upper limits to align with your highest potential
• Unlocking ease, joy, and freedom in your personal and professional life
• How family dynamics and past conditioning can create hidden blocks
• Cultivating ease and balance across your holistic wheel of life
• Powerful questions for self-reflection

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Shelley Riutta on Instagram 

Rise of the Holistic Millionaire Facebook Group

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Transcript

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Shelley (00:00.93)
Welcome back to the Holistic Millionaire Podcast. So excited to connect with you and so excited about the topic that we're going to be talking about, which is breaking through your upper limits. And this was prompted, I am preparing to leave for Costa Rica in like two days. And so I've been preparing and gathering everything together and it's been

very busy, but I'm really today in particular, I'm just kind of letting it sink in like what is happening. And every day the retreat gets even more juicy and amazing with adding different things in. And so it just feels really, really wonderful. And

The idea of the upper limits came to me because when I am stepping into doing these things that I really love in the business, I mean, I love really every dimension of the business, which is incredible. I love all of our clients. love our team member. I love what we are doing, you know, how we're supporting our clients and then adding into the mix, you know, leading retreats. So this is something that we.

You know, have started with, you know, we've been leading transformational workshops and retreats for over 20 years, but we have over, gosh, within the last year, added retreats in, in particular that are going out of country. So going to Costa Rica, going to different parts of the world. So that has been an intention of mine for a while is to do global travel with amazing female holistic professionals.

So here we are, the vision is happening and it's getting more juicy and just yummy by the minute. And so for me, it is really receiving the goodness, receiving how amazing this is and really navigating upper limits. And so this is a concept that we teach about in the Holistic Business School, but it...

Shelley (02:21.142)
also something I really worked with my clients in my first holistic business in radiant life counseling and coaching, because I would realize as I was helping my clients lives expand and one visual and that I like to, and we do it in with our clients in this business too, but the holistic wheel with all the areas of your life.

Our goal and intention in my first business and now with the holistic business school clients is to look at the holistic wheel, all the different areas of their life, their relationship, their health, you know, the growth of their business, their spirituality, their relationships, you know, with friends and family that we want them to optimize it. So their level of fulfillment in all of those areas is a nine or a 10. And

Over the years of guiding our clients to step into this, a lot of times it's opening up to receive like, can I have all the areas of my life working together so I have this deep level of fulfillment with every single area of my life? So this is something I would love for you and this is such a great time for you to do that is to reflect on that.

because oftentimes there can be a barrier or block to letting yourself receive and a big part of the block can be connected to family loyalty because oftentimes we all come from family systems where our family members were struggling whether emotionally or psychologically or financially, relationally. So there can be that

Struggle energy, painful experiences that happened with our family members and with all the personal growth and transformation you are doing, you're busting out of those patterns. You're going into new territory. You're creating new paradigms, new ways of being that your family system has never seen before. And while that's exciting and you are actively working towards that, there can be a conditioned part of you that is like,

Shelley (04:44.206)
worried about a disconnection, that you were going to disconnect from your family system, that you love and care for. And, you know, the biggest thing that we can struggle against is being disconnected, right? Being isolated from the people that we love. So bringing that unconscious pattern and belief to the surface so you can look at it more clearly and consciously

consciously create what you want to create, consciously move into that next level. I'll give an example. I had set a goal with one of our launches. We had never done a six-figure launch before. And I was like, I set that as a goal, which is hilarious because I look back in my first holistic business and one of my big milestones was crossing the six-figure mark in a whole year.

And now, you know, the next milestone was, can I do it in a launch? know, so that's funny to reflect on. So anyway, we were in a launch and we were getting close to it. But we, I think we ended up doing 84,000. And so the next launch, I'm like, okay, we're really going to, you know, cross the six figure mark. So we were.

At a certain point of the launch where I was like, I think we're going to do it. Like we're super close. And I could sense a conditioned part of me starting to pull back, starting to go into this is uncomfortable. This is I'm breaking barriers. I'm busting through something here and there was a lot of, you know, discomfort, but I was consciously tracking it.

And I went into my loving wise adult connected to my spiritual connection and really comforted that part of me that was feeling anxious, feeling uncomfortable, really hesitating and just really saying that this is amazing. This is a wonderful, this is a really incredible thing to do and it's safe to do it. You know, all the things I walked myself through it. And when we cross the six figure mark,

Shelley (07:06.12)
something busted open within me. just remember I felt like laughing and crying and I felt like something inside of me got healed, released. It was hard to even really articulate it because it felt so big. And I think anytime we go past our, you know, our own limitations, our own perceptions of what we think is possible,

And then on top of it, we're busting through family systems, you know, and whether it is, you know, relationally that you have loving close connections and your family system, many of the members weren't able to have close connections and you're doing that, that's busting through a barrier or it's living your life purpose when, you know, maybe your family members never really

followed their life purpose, never really aligned with it. And you're getting to do that. And then financially, many of you are busting through limits of how much anyone has made in your family. Or for me, was, you know, being a female, like I was the first female in my family to go to college. Definitely making more money than any woman in my family system. And then

you know, going on to making more money than many of the men in my family too. So breaking through those barriers. So the upper limits. So I'm going to actually read something from the book, Big Leap by Gay Hendrix, which does such a great job of talking about upper limits. And even though, you know, we've, I've read this book multiple times, it's funny how you go back to something and you're like, wow, this

is so hitting the nail on the head. So there's three questions. And this is actually in chapter one. And it's the question is, am I willing to increase the amount of time every day that I feel good inside? And then he says, when I use the phrase feel good, I'm talking about a natural inner sense of well being that's not dependent on outside factors.

Shelley (09:31.788)
It's important to begin with a willingness to feel good inside because there's no sense enhancing other parts of your life at the expense of your inner well-being.

The second question is, am I willing to increase the amount of time that my whole life goes well? So that's the whole holistic wheel. All the different areas of the holistic wheel are at that nine, 10 level of fulfillment. Because oftentimes I've seen clients who will allow themselves to really thrive in one or two areas, or maybe they get to

You know, if there's seven different areas, they thrive and six of them and they totally tank the seventh one, right? So that's another tracking that we do with our clients as well.

So it says in the book, when I use the phrase whole life, I'm talking about your work, your relationships, your creative pursuits, and any other aspects that are central to your life. What I'd like for you, if you're willing, is for all of your life to flow more positively and easefully. It's funny when I read that word, I'm like, is that even a word, right?

for longer and longer periods of time. And then the third question, am I willing to feel good and have my life go well all the time? So at first glance, you might ask, who wouldn't say yes to all of these questions? And he says, well, for many of us, the idea of all of this positive emotion seems far-fetched to begin with.

Shelley (11:24.15)
It is easy for us to just assume that with the positive comes the negative. To that I say, why not get willing and see what happens. We humans have a long and wonderful history of transcending our beliefs about what is really possible.

So can you imagine that holistic wheel? Can you imagine all of the areas thriving and you're feeling good internally most of the time? And a big part of that, a big shift that I see a lot of our clients making and is releasing struggle energy, right? Having to be hard. So when he used that word, easefully,

that really stuck out for me. So can you move from struggle to ease? And sometimes that is retraining your body because again, you might have a family system that didn't have a feeling of ease and joy, freedom, abundance. Those can be just like foreign feelings to what you were exposed to in your family system.

So practicing those emotional states can be huge because a lot of times it's going back, you know, it's very common to go back to the default setting of those emotions that are just super familiar for you. And they can provide a sense of safety because they're so familiar. But are you willing to step out of the familiar and uncomfortable into the less familiar?

but more desirable, know, what you really, really want at a soul level. So practicing, breaking through those upper limits, taking a look at the holistic wheel. It's a great time to evaluate that and just really take a close look. I thriving in all of these areas and what needs to shift?

Shelley (13:36.472)
for me to thrive in all of those areas, can I take one of those areas that I've struggled with for a long time and fully transform it and get to a nine or 10? And that doesn't have to take forever, right?

So that is your homework assignment. Do the holistic wheel, do a current assessment, and then really consciously create what you want to experience. So as I step into my trip to Costa Rica and being my loving wise adult that says, take it in, enjoy this amazing journey of being with all the other holistic professionals that

you know, are coming with us and all the adventures we're going to have. And this retreat is focusing on self care as well as, you know, visioning for the future for, you know, their life and their business. But there's so much that happens at those retreats, right? And, you know, it's the, you know, hike that you take, it's going to the beach, it's the drive to, you know, the diff- we're going to three different locations. There's the meals.

I remember in our last retreat last year, there were so many significant divine orchestrations and synchronicities. And so I just can't wait to see what's going to happen, you know, that divine orchestration and all these adventures. And there's so many breakthroughs, you know, to have these immersion experiences. It's such a gift to give yourself.

You know, before we led the retreat last December, I went to two different retreats myself. did went, did a 10 day retreat in Costa Rica. And then I did one in the south of France. And it was such a beautiful gift to give myself, you know, like filling my own cup before I was then going to give a lot in the retreat that we did in December. So taking a look at.

Shelley (15:44.866)
busting through those upper limits. As we go into the next year, it's taking a look at your vision, starting to cast that vision, taking off all the limits, My favorite question, if anything were possible, what would you like to, because it is possible, what would you like to create? And start to envision this because this idea of leading retreats,

internationally was just a dream of mine for so long and it just feels so good to actually be living it. So sending you big love. I hope you have an amazing rest of your day, amazing week, and I can't wait to connect with you on the next episode.